Today on The Bride Link, we're talking about how to let somebody know they're not invited to your wedding. We're talking about that awkward situation where you run into an old friend from high school that you haven't seen in years. They noticed on social media you got engaged, planning your upcoming wedding, and are expecting an invitation. You don't want to create hurt feelings when you let them know they're not invited to the wedding. This can be awkward and stressful! We're sharing expert tips to help deal with upset family and friends who are not invited to your wedding. But first, grab your FREE copy of our Clean-Up Fact Sheet! Learn easy ways to leave the venue spotless and avoid additional cleaning charges!
First and foremost, you can always blame it on your budget. Budgets for the wedding can always be restrictive, and if it's somebody that's planned a wedding before, they most definitely know this. Letting them know that the costs were just too much to have such a large wedding. This can be the easiest and most gentle explanation of why they were not invited. You can also point to intimacy and say that you intended to have a very small and personal wedding with all your closest friends and family. Now, if you invited 250 people, don't say this! You want to be honest with the person because more than likely they're going to see pictures of the wedding on social media or post from your friends. Be honest!
You could also blame it on the venue size. If you have a venue that has a smaller restrictive guest count, that's an easy way to let them know that you only had a certain number of seats available and you chose your closest friends and family first. Parents can sometimes insist on inviting family first, and you and your partner both have large families. Again, no lies here!
Now, you can also say that you're having a destination wedding. Having a destination wedding usually cuts down on the guest list by a lot because not everybody's gonna travel that far. Because you're having a destination wedding, you didn't want to ask everyone to sign up for the extra expense to attend. Thus you've kept your guest list very, very small.
You can also just be direct. If there's a particular reason why you don't want that person to come to the wedding, you can honestly let them know. Always being polite and gentle with their feelings is going to be the best route. This is no time to start some drama when you have a wedding to plan!
Now, you can avoid posting too much on social media prewedding if you want. This will make sure any friends that you haven't talked to from high school don't know about the wedding. If you don't avoid social media, you are inviting everybody to see what's going on in your life. If you're not ready to deal with the consequences of that, like people asking when the wedding day is and when they should expect their invitation, then don't post it on social media at all until after the event has been completed.
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